The Five Money Personalities [Book Review]

The Five Money Personalities by Scott and Bethany Palmer

The Five Money Personalities by Scott and Bethany Palmer

When I got married I received a few marriagey-type books and for the most part I was thankful and had great intentions to read them…but two years later they’re still sitting on the shelf.

Part of it is because I have a bucket of books to read and another part is because I don’t actually know how to read a couple’s book. Do I need two copies and my husband and I read it at the same time? Does one of us have to read it aloud to the other? Does one read it and then lend it to the other? Just me?

So imagine my surprise when the next book I chose to review was a couple’s book about money.

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The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language is written by “The Money Couple” Scott and Bethany Palmer, who work as financial counsellors and have written several books and studies on money and relationships. For this project I took a few approaches. Since I’m doing the review only I needed to read the book, but some parts were just so darn interesting I couldn’t help but reading them out loud. And then since I got an ebook it was interactive and found myself doing quizzes and, well, interacting. I went from simply reading the book to participating in it.

I raced through Part 1, which is all about your Money Personality. Riveting stuff. It was light, fun, and easy.

Part 2 is where the tone of the book shifted. I think it was necessary but a real downer. Topics centred on why couples fight about money, and how financial infidelity tears relationships apart. I’ve never thought about this concept before, and I think I buy it. This section also explained the different ways you can commit financial infidelity. There are some obvious ones like having secret bank accounts and lying about your spending, but there were also some unexpected roots of financial infidelity like overspending and lack of planning.

It gave me a lot to think about.

After those chapters I was less eager to finish the book. It was all about fighting, how to fight fair, and how to talk about money in a way you won’t fight. Part 2 and Part 3 are nitty, gritty, practical sections. And heavy, serious, and difficult to skim.

I appreciated the information in these last parts, but it kind of felt like if you’re at that point in your marriage you should probably be in counselling under professional care rather than reading six or seven pages on topic. But it’s a good start down that path.

You don’t know what you don’t know, right?

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review.

Handmade Ties for Every Tom, Dick and Harry

If you’re connected with me by social media then you already know I went crazy this weekend over my lucky strike in pattern book 1760 “Discover The Excitement Of Hairpin Lace.”

More specifically over these amazing ties.

Handmade ties.

Dick’s tie is simply called “Knitted Tie,” Harry’s is “Ascot,” but Tom’s…Tom’s tie is called “Afghan Tie.” Now that’s special.

This pattern book comes to me from the 1960s and—apparently—just showed up on my bookshelf as my mother said there is no way it belonged to her.

I shall search my dad’s tie collection soon to verify.

Anyway, the price on the book is $1.50. Mine has a little sticker asking $0.50 but now it’s on eBay for the vintage-trendy price of $9.99 USD.

Immediately I thought finally I have something I can knit my husband, as he has never once allowed me to make something for him, stating he’s very picky and doesn’t want to hurt my feelings if he doesn’t like it.

Ouch.

But these ties! I mean, who wouldn’t want them?

Oh, he’s getting them.

October Poll Update

Here’s a little update on the votes for October’s blog topic.

  1. Blogging with Just/Few Pictures: 34 votes
  2. Tweeting: 22 votes
  3. Fiction: 12 votes
  4. Fashion: 7 votes
  5. Pirates: 6 votes

And one vote in the “Other” category for first 30 days of married life. Pretty sure this is some sort of “joke” but can never tell. I’ve lost perspective.

Anyway, if it’s not a “joke” here is Married Life So Far when it had literally been 30 days of marriage. Lovely topic. Don’t miss that one.

Top Five Ways I’ve Changed Since Getting Married

Oh I just hate to admit this. But getting married has changed me.

OK I see you all rolling your eyes. Well, I feel it.

But hear me out: It was important to me not to change! I wanted to be the same chicka, the same friend, the same person. I didn’t want to be that girl who you hear about. The one who was pretending to have a life but was actually just sitting around waiting to get married to have a life. And for whatever reason I somehow interpreted it to mean I couldn’t change at all.

However. Despite my best efforts, I am…wait for it…turning into a wife! A wife!

Don’t tell my husband.

So here it is. The great reveal.

Top Five Ways I’ve Changed Since Getting Married

  1. Sharing. I’ve mentioned this before but I’m still surprised at how easy it was for me to start sharing and how easily I’m adapting to it. Although I don’t really see why I would have to ever share a bathroom unless we only have one bathroom. Why? So I’m still not really sharing my bathroom but I’m aware of it and am opening up to the possibility. Ish
  2. Watching Boy Movies. At first I was tolerating these movies. Then I was suggesting them. To be nice. Now? Well, I’m kind of sort of enjoying them. SOME of them. I still think Zombieland was stupid. A little funny. Mostly stupid
  3. Teasing. Yes I’m bringing up the Snuggie again. But I’m still in shock a year later that I haven’t grown tired of the teasing. Instead I’m, like, kind of liking the attention. Before marriage I could put up with some teasing and would even banter a bit back, but before too long my patience would grow thin and the joke would get tired. So that’s a switch
  4. Kitchen Meltdowns. I’ve never had these before. Not that I can recall. But now there’s something developing in me. I want to…cook amazing food for my husband. And then if I screw it up I have a meltdown cause I’m so disappointed. What the what!?!
  5. Sushi. Just kidding. I still don’t like it and usually duck out of plans including it (sorry husband).