The Five Money Personalities [Book Review]

The Five Money Personalities by Scott and Bethany Palmer is one of those books for couples about money. I didn’t think I was into those.

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The Five Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language

When I got married I received a few marriagey-type books and for the most part I was thankful and had great intentions to read them…but two years later they’re still sitting on the shelf.

Part of it is because I have a bucket of books to read and another part is because I don’t actually know how to read a couple’s book. Do I need two copies and my husband and I read it at the same time? Does one of us have to read it aloud to the other? Does one read it and then lend it to the other? Just me?

But back to The Five Money Personalities

Written by “The Money Couple” Scott and Bethany Palmer, who work as financial counsellors and have written several books and studies on money and relationships. For this project I took a few approaches. Since I’m doing the review only I needed to read the book, but some parts were just so darn interesting I couldn’t help but reading them out loud. And then since I got an interactive ebook and found myself doing quizzes and, well, interacting. I went from simply reading the book to participating in it.

I raced through Part 1, which is all about your Money Personality. Riveting stuff. It was light, fun, and easy.

Part 2 is where the tone of the book shifted. I think it was necessary but a real downer. Topics centred on why couples fight about money, and how financial infidelity tears relationships apart. I’ve never thought about this concept before, and I think I buy it. This section also explained the different ways you can commit financial infidelity. There are some obvious ones like having secret bank accounts and lying about your spending, but there were also some unexpected roots of financial infidelity like overspending and lack of planning.

It gave me a lot to think about

After those chapters I was less eager to finish the book. It was all about fighting, how to fight fair, and how to talk about money in a way you won’t fight. Part 2 and Part 3 are nitty, gritty, practical sections. And heavy, serious, and difficult to skim.

I appreciated the information in these last parts, but it kind of felt like if you’re at that point in your marriage you should probably be in counselling under professional care rather than reading six or seven pages on topic. But it’s a good start down that path.

You don’t know what you don’t know, right?

The Five Money Personalities is written by Scott and Bethany Palmer who work as financial counsellors & have written several books on money & relationships.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review.

When My Elevator Etiquette Came Back to Bite Me

When you live in a strata complex, elevator etiquette is of the upmost importance. It’s a thing condo people must put up with, which people in regular homes wouldn’t have to.

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There are quite a few etiquette things. One of my pet peeves is parking garage etiquette, but I’ll save that rant for another day.

Today I’m up in arms about elevator etiquette

Much of the time I avoid the elevator for these reasons.

  • The elevator is slow
  • There are only four floors in my building
  • No one seems to know how to practice elevator etiquette

Here’s what happens: I’m in the elevator and it reaches my floor. I begin to exit said elevator when someone decides to get in.

So then I have to step out of the way, then step around the new person and catch the door before it closes.

Not cool right?

At first I apologized when this happened, assuming they just didn’t see me exiting or something but not anymore.

Now? Death stare.

And I think Yeah buddy, now you’re getting the death stare. Because you don’t know how to behave on an elevator.

I wasn’t sure I wanted to admit this in case I was wrong so I did a bit of a Google investigation.

It didn’t take much searching. Yup, I was right. It’s rude.

But the fun doesn’t end there, oh no. Actually this is quite a contentious topic! People feel strongly about how you should behave in an elevator. There are entire websites about it.

I’d link them but, well, I can’t be bothered

But here’s one of the best “rules,” which showed up on a few pages. The issue of talking to people on the elevator.

It’s a no-no.

Well, it’s OK if you already know the person, but if you don’t know the person apparently it’s bad form to speak in the elevator.

I’m actually guilty of breaking this one. I thought it was called being friendly.

So…perhaps I’m that guy everyone dreads seeing on the elevator cause she talks. And they want to get back at me by blocking my elevator exit.

I probably deserve it.

I hate the elevator in my building. It's so slow. There are only four floors in my building. And no one seems to know how to practice elevator etiquette.

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I’ve Decided to Become a Morning Person

Well everyone, I’ve decided to become a morning person. This is literally the most annoying decision I’ve ever made.

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Why I’m Going to Become a Morning Person

I hate waking up early. Especially to an alarm clock. Because morning’s are the worst. I’m sleepy, grumpy, and all the other negative dwarves (dwarf’s? My spell checker says I’m wrong). Definitely not happy.

But there’s this…thought gnawing at me. It says “Remember that time you used to jog three mornings a week before work?” and I nod, grudgingly.

And then I hear another thought. “Remember how you survived and you actually didn’t hate getting up so early with a passion, only with annoyance, after a few months?”

No. I don’t remember that part. But the thought thinks I didn’t hate it so much by the end there.

Something’s got to change

Maybe I don’t have to go jogging in the wee hours but I’ve got to at least get on a different schedule. I’m pretty tired most of the time, and I’m dragging myself through the day.

Sure, the super-cold weather has a bit to do with it, but I think it’s more to do with getting into a rut. Giving in to bad habits and becoming lazier and lazier.

So now I have to combat the snoozies and the lazies with some “Rise Up And Shine” action. No matter how grumpy I am at first.

(Watch out co-workers, this is not going to be pretty.)

Wanting to do this right I Googled around a bit for some good tips for magically transforming into a morning person

Unfortunately, all I found were pretty silly ideas like “do your hair the night before” and “give yourself a pep talk.”

Um…

My favourite suggestion was “set an alarm clock.”

Perhaps someone out there has a real suggestion? My husband says “just get up,” which I guess is the essence of what I’m trying to do…but I’d like the answer to be a little more sugar coated and, well, easier.

Well everyone, I've decided to become a morning person. This is literally the most annoying decision I've ever made. I hate waking up early.

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A Writer’s Bucket List by Dana Sitar [Review]

Although I’ve never seen the movie I know the old bucket list inside and out. I love lists, I feel victorious whenever I can check something off—check, completed!

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When I saw the title of Dana Sitar’s new bookA Writer’s Bucket List (and the subtitle—99 Things to do for inspiration, education, and experience before your writing kicks the bucket) I thought, “She’s speaking my language!”

And then I wondered how many “things” I could check off the list before I got to 99.

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If you’re stuck in your writing in any way, this book addresses it. Stuck for word? There are writing prompts. Lacking story ideas? Sitar suggests activities to find inspiration. Can’t figure out where to show your work? There’s an entire section on building a network. I think these tips are especially handy when you’re in a writing rut, following the same formula for everything you write. It inspires you to try something new, shake things up a bit.

Because the truth is, you will never stop becoming a better writer. I love Sitar’s challenge to discover, through trying everything, exactly what kind of writer you are.

At first I resisted the challenge—I even wrote the author saying something like “Hey, these tips aren’t deep enough; they force the reader to do all the work!” But after some reflection I have changed my position.

Page nine of A Writer’s Bucket List contains the premise and ultimate goal of this project

“The Bucket List challenges you and strengthens your creativity, encourages you to forge your own path, find your own education, and discover what type of writing life that’s Just Right for you.”

I realized if this book was a step-by-step guide to writing we’d all just become little Sitar’s. Because it doesn’t hold our hand (but instead pushes us off the cliff) we are equipped with the tools to become the best writers we can be, on our own terms.

Oh, and I have 20 to go before I can finish this bucket list.

If you’re looking for writing inspiration you’ll love this book. And when you purchase A Writer’s Bucket List you’ll take home a bunch of bonus freebies like workbooks and exercises.

Happy writing!

Page nine of A Writer’s Bucket List by Dana Sitar contains the ultimate goal of this project, to discover what type of writing life is just right for you.

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Designing My Own iPhone Case from Vistaprint

As much as I love my practical protective iPhone case (and I do, I really, really do) I’m much more interested in expressing myself with my phone case!

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Designing your own iPhone case

I decided to design my own iPhone case with Vistaprint. Here’s a quick how to.

Here’s how to design your own iPhone case with Vistaprint

  • You’ll need an account to do any of this so start by creating a free account
  • Next, search for the type of product you want to design (so in this case you’ll search for “iPhone case”)
  • Select the option you like and then navigate through the different details (in this case, phone model, case finish and quantity)
  • Then either work from a pre-made design or upload your own
  • Once you like your design, review it and confirm your approval
  • Go through the checkout and purchase your customized iPhone case!

Pro tip: This was passed down to me and now I’m continuing the tradition: get on Vistaprint’s mailing list and wait for the free shipping deal to come around. That’s when you make your move.

Although the interface is easy to use (and they offer a lot of design suggestions), I didn’t love any of my ideas.

But then inspiration struck: use the design from my wedding reception invitations!

My talented sister designed my invites. Aww. So sweet. She based the idea on the umbrellas I had at my wedding as well as the damask pattern I love. The colour scheme is actually from some wallpaper I desperately searched for and eventually found in England. So it’s really me.

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Anyway, here’s where I have to admit I did not follow the rules and I did pay for shipping. I instead went for the 50% off the entire site sale. So…I don’t know. Maybe my tip won’t change your life.

I waited about a week for my case and when it arrived I was pretty stoked. It did look good if I do say so myself.

And I love that I now have a lasting reminder of my rad wedding invites. This just fills the space so well. My only caution is the edges on my case design did bleed a bit so I don’t have as perfect a design as I hoped, but still. It’s pretty awesome.

As much as I love my practical protective iPhone case (and I do, I really, really do) I'm much more interested in expressing myself with my phone case!